6 Tips to be Confident in Any Situation -- Like a Boudoir Shoot! (Infographic)
Life is full of scary situations, and there is no getting around that reality! Some people feel anxiety around a big test in school, others fear approaching attractive potential dating prospects. Other people feel completely confident in those exact same situations!
We all come from different backgrounds, have different talents and biases so it’s impossible to predict with certainty what sets each of us off personally. However, doing almost anything for the first time is usually enough to work anyone’s nerves. In my case, as a business owner, I feel like I have been dealing with a ton of firsts!
I’m also a first-hand witness to a lot of nervousness when clients come in for their first boudoir shoot! I can imagine for some people it resembles a common nightmare—suddenly find themselves naked unexpectedly in front of strangers. Or maybe it’s the one where all of the sudden their expected to perform in front of a group of people but then remember they haven’t prepared at all.
First, I can assure you that a boudoir shoot at my studio is nothing to be worried about! I do everything in my power to make it a wonderful experience and make you look and feel like you know what you’re doing. However, butterflies still happen to all of us unexpectedly. The good news is that you can do somethings to help you calm your mind about experiences that give you trepidation.
First, know that nervousness can be a good thing. Embrace the fact that your instinct of self-preservation protects you. Also, know that for tasks you really want to do and for those you’re doing for the first time, your reward with going through it is increased CONFIDENCE.
Show up prepared. You can always study up on things you have questions about, and you can read stories of people who have gone before you. You can read how-to guides and learn from experts. This preparation can help with focus while you are sitting in the “waiting room” and you will keep your cool.
Discuss your fears with people you trust. If you’re confronted with something particularly daunting, you should find a friend who will listen to you verbally sort out the crux of the problem. Sometimes saying your fear out loud makes it easier to confront.
List your strengths. I can’t tell you how important this is in a boudoir shoot! It’s an exercise I have all my clients do when going into hair and makeup. “What do you like best about your body?” I ask. All of the sudden my shy and meek clients are strutting around, showing off that bod and feeling quite a bit more confident.
Create a positive thought pattern. Remember why you’re trying something new or challenging and how it aligns with your hopes and goals. Remind yourself of past success in overcoming challenging tasks. You are valuable, unique, important and beautiful!
Breathe. There is a physical element to nervousness and sometimes it’s one’s physical state that drives nervous psychology. Note your breathing and heart rate when you are nervous. If you concentrate on long, slow and deliberate breaths, that will help slow your heart rate. The rhythm you’re breathing at will help organize frantic thoughts in your brain.
You can do hard things!
